This is where I left you last Thursday, promising to give you an answer…
Truth be told – the answer is: N O T H I N G.
“Life isn’t fair – get use to it.”
Don’t you hear your mother’s voice echoing in your head, as I do?
Someone will always get the bigger cookie first, the longest turn on the swing, the better card in the game.
when we get the biggest cookie, the longest turn on the swing, or the winning card in the game – — do we still exclaim, “It’s not fair?”
Of course not.
Suddenly the path of the exclamation goes from “Why me?” to “Why not me!“
It’s all a matter of perspective.
Why did I have to get cancer? I do not know…but, why not me? I am not above the perils of this world.
Four anchors held me as my life, like a tiny sailboat, tossed violently in the stormy sea of a dark trial.
One: Accept Support.
“Hand in hand, we opened the door and stepped out into the brazen sunlight, neither knowing what lay ahead.” (p. 6 Towdah)
Do you have support? Do not try to go it alone. Call on your closest loves in life and let them hold your hand. My aunt, who battled against cancer for nearly 12 years, told me, “No matter what, always let people help you, for if you deny them the opportunity, you squash the Spirit working in them and you lose out on a blessing.”
Two: Stick to the Plan.
With a battle, there is a plan – always. And once a plan is in place, everything seems doable. Stick to it and fight with everything you’ve got!
Medically: follow through with the treatment plan.
Spiritually: pray; “And the prayer offered in faith will make the sick person well;”
Three: Stay Vulnerable
“Without words, I drew close…Tears once again began to flow…Emotions gave way with an ever so gentle explosion of sighs and tears.”(p.34 Towdah)
Keep it real my friend. Embrace your humanness.
Four: Trust God.
There is a choice to make. You can be swallowed up by fear or you can be cradled by trust. Seems a no-brainer to choose trust – I mean, who wants to be swallowed up! The next question then, is who do you trust? Entering the unknown territory of this trial, I put my trust in God as Joshua did. Cancer, disease, sudden loss bring unknown territory and it is scary.
“Like a child, holding the father’s hand, I couldn’t bear it anymore and I turned with anxious asking, ‘Pick me up Daddy! I’m scared.’ ” (p. 30 Towdah)
Accept support. Stick to the plan. Stay vulnerable. Trust God.