Give Hope: Weep and Laugh


Don’t try to change things.  Don’t try to ignore things.  Don’t make excuses for things.

Just be there. Fully and genuinely.

When a friend or loved one is suffering, they just simply need you to be there on their side, in their corner, with them in the present moment.


King Solomon clearly said,

“There is a time for everything….a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance.” Ecclesiastes 3: 1a & 4

Being there is not always easy.

It takes effort to clear the schedule and make the time to be there.

It takes courage to join a suffer-er in their space and be open to the moment of just being there.

It takes love to sit in silence and hold a hand, to weep, to laugh, to mourn, and to dance in the being there.

BUT – please have confidence that you can do it.  

This is probably the one thing that meant the most to me as I was enduring my battle with cancer.


“David walked into the room and took me in his arms.  Without words, I drew close to him, leaned against his chest and hugged him. We swayed gently to the music….no words. Emotions gave way with an ever so gentle explosion of sighs and tears….I felt so loved, so uplifted, and strangely refreshed.  Through the reach of my husband, God comforted me….” p. 34 & 35 Towdah, A Cancer Survivor’s Song of Hope

A time to weep….

“Walking across  the parking lot on a short shopping outing, my girls chuckled along with me as my shoe flipped off flying ten feet in front of us!” p. 68 Towdah

A time to laugh…

Joining in and engaging with me was the most precious of all things that helped ease my pains, both physically and mentally.  In these moments, HOPE reigned because there was love in the being there with me, no matter what the moments held.


Suffering is all around us.  Many are afflicted.  I pray that  you will trust in God’s equipping you to find ways to ease the pain of a friend or loved one this Christmas season.

Be His hands and lips and feet.  

Carry the burdens,



do good and share,

and love by just being there in the moment.

Offer HOPE.


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Girls Weeping after Tryouts

It had been three days of running, drilling, sweating, and playing the game.  Tryouts for the fall team had begun and tension was in the air.  The time had come and the names were called. Those who made the team were directed to a side room down the hall.  Those who did not make the cut were pointed toward the door.  They were to go outside the building and go home with their parents.

We, parents, were waiting outside the school doors wondering. Stopped from the hustle and bustle of our day. Waiting. And looking to see if our daughter would be coming through the doors.

Time passed slowly. Then one by one in straggling fashion, girls exited the building. Some walked by seemingly un-phased by the whole ordeal. Apparently, making the team was not hugely important to them. Some however were devastated and there were many girls weeping after tryouts.  I wondered how each girl had prepared for this day.  I wondered at the stipulation of the coaches and what they were looking for in a selected player.

“They are cutting all the freshman! No one is going to make it! It’s not fair!” was one girls loud exclamation.

“What am I going to do…” she wailed.

Forty girls tried out. Twenty two slots were available to be filled. Eighteen girls were not able to be let in.

Even in this scene, the Holy Spirit spoke to me.

“This is a tame glimpse of what it will be like when Jesus returns.  Those with expectation to enter the kingdom, may not make it.  There will be weeping alongside indignation and dumbfounded-ness.”

I was reminded of the story of the ten virgins in Matthew 25: 1- 13.

Ten women waited. Five were prepared. Five were not. The five prepared made the cut; they made the team entering the kingdom of heaven.

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This is how it will be.

This is no perfect illustration. But I was struck by the weeping and dashed dreams all attached to making a sport team.  How much more devastating it will be if people find themselves cut from entering the kingdom of heaven!

Where is the hope in this message?

God, as Holy and Righteous, was visible to me in that moment. Yet, God, as Patience and Compassion, was visible to me also.  He has given us instruction through his Word; it is the secret playbook of life.  He has given us his Son; He is the trainer alongside, the go-between who will plead our case and show us to be worthy of entering the kingdom. God, as mercy, will be standing at the door calling the names of those who have put their hope in Him and in Him alone.

I want to be among the names called. Don’t you?

Before it is too late and to spare your wailing, “What am I going to do…?” like the girl who was cut….here is my message of hope for you today:

Read the playbook.

Commit your life to the trainer.  

Believe Him and follow Him.